I have been married for 48 years to the same man who I love just as much today as I did when I first met him. We met while in college and dated five years before our marriage. So, basically we have known each other 53 years. When younger people hear we are married for so long, the usual question is “what is the secret to staying married so long?”
The answer is simple: Similarities!!
Not in personalities or in likes and dislikes but similarities in upbringing, environment, religion and education. A couple may not have the same nationality or religion but their family heritage is similar in customs, rituals and beliefs. This gives the couple the ability to understand each other’s personality traits when they are able to compare their beliefs and behavior to their upbringing.
Even something as simple as a comfort food recipe can bring a couple to compare their childhood memories of a dish Mom made and see the similarities. It’s easier for a husband to understand eating Bacala on Christmas Eve when his Mother is also Italian.